January 2020 DAFFY Date Experience: How to Turn Fears into Favors in 2020

Fears.

Fears can nag us. 

Fears can try to win by crippling us down to our knees while our life blows up all around us.

Fears can be sneaky and drip into our lives for a long time before they suddenly try to destroy us.
Or, fears can be like a camouflaged monster and try to swallow us up swiftly before we even know it.

Sound familiar? 

Within the weight of fears, they can feel like limiting beliefs, the evil perfectionist that lives in our head, fear of not being enough, fear of rejection, and fear of other’s opinions. - Britt Olson

Ladies, you’ve been surviving and living through your fears for years.

You are fear warriors. 

But, maybe you still feel chained or controlled by them?

“In order to call our fears, we must first know what type of narratives these fears manifest into. Listed below are a few common fear narratives that may play in your head every day, every hour or every other season in life.” - Britt Olson

These may come in various ranges and look like: ​

FEARS
​ The Most Common Fear Narratives:

• I am not enough.
• I’m going to be alone forever.
• I am not worthy.
• I won’t have the money/time to do XYZ.
• I am being selfish.
• I’m not strong.
• I’m a fake. 
• I need to be perfect.
• No one wants to hear what I think.
• I am responsible for others' happiness.
• My dreams aren’t important.
• I am afraid to give advice.
• I won’t ever look like them. 
• No one wants to hear my story.
• I don’t want to upset him/her.
• I will be deceived. 
• I don’t want to rock the boat.
• I am afraid of loss (Losing someone, freedom, season of life).
• I’m afraid to fail.
• I am not beautiful. I don’t look good.
• I’m afraid of missing out (FOMO).
• I’m too old. 
• I'm a failure.

Fears don't define us.

These narratives do not get to win or control us. Because, we have the truth of ourselves and who we are to speak over them. Let’s take a look at the most common truths that we can speak over the fears we listed before.

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TRUTHS
Truths we can speak over the most common fear narratives:

• I am enough.
• I’m wonderfully made.
• I’m not being selfish. 
• I am chosen.
• Yes, the world wants to hear me.
• I have a purpose in this world.
• I am set apart.
• I can’t control anyone but myself.
• I matter.
• I will be okay if I do fail. 
• I am beautiful.
• I will never stop growing.
• I’m never alone.
• Nothing is impossible.
• Everything I need is within me.
• Progress not perfection.
• I’m only responsible for myself.
• My story will help someone.
• My story matters.
• I am loved by my creator.
• All deception will be brought to light.
• I am loved/ I am not alone.

These are real. 

These win. 

Not the fears. 

When I finally realized that I had to face my darkest fears in order to gain my control back, is when I created a 3 step process called the “Triple L” Steps to turn my fears into favors for myself. It didn’t happen overnight. It took time, support and practice, but now it’s a process I do everyday to lean through my fears and
​ into truths. - Chelsea Harris

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The “Triple L” Process​

1. Liar, Liar: Call out your fear/fears.
   1. By literally saying your fears out loud or writing them down.
2. Let it Go: Speak the truth/truth’s over your fear/fears.
   1. By either saying it out loud, writing it down on a piece of paper or speaking it to your Higher Power or human being.
3. Lean Into the Truth: Do a favor for yourself & manifest these truths into reality.
   1. By either writing them out, talking them out with someone else, creating goals, making boundaries, etc…) - bring your truths to LIFE.​​

We owe it to ourselves to do the work to bring our truths to LIFE. Because they deserve life and we deserve life. Even if you are stuck right now and don’t believe your truths will live or the concept sounds so far out there; please know that it is possible. ​- Britt Olson

And, don’t worry, we’ve been there before too and in this beautifully messy process we will go back there again too, because that’s life and life isn’t meant to be perfect.

But, one thing we do know is.... we will continue trying and being the warriors against these fears every day with this process.

​Will you try it too?

You're a treasure,
Chelsea & Britt

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